My recent observations

Ask older Americans

All older Americans whom I interviewed were over 50, but they were still energetic and had already planned their future. They are not planning to move from their houses to somewhere else. As the elders mentioned, they will have enough time to do everything when they are retired. Probably all of them want to enjoy the rest of their lives living independently and seeing their children's success. Older spouses were happy that they can spend more time together and take care of each other. Some retired people told me that they were willing to do things that they couldn’t do when they had a job and were busy. Some of them want to travel around the United States to visit their all relatives and others want to travel all over the world to explore new things and to see how other people live.

Observations of children and adults

I observed American children and adults in public places such as the Acoustic Cafe, Zorn Arena and the London Cinema. It seemed for me that American parents treat their small children in a same way as Mongolians do. American parents try to spend most of their leisure time with their children and to do entertaining things with them. On weekends many parents go to cinemas and parks with their children. Parents love to look at how their children are playing and laughing. Adults are happy when their children are happy and smiling. Moms and dads look carefully after children not to make them fall and hurt. But they also can be strict to their children when it is needed. I saw some adults in public places warning and teaching their children how to behave such as warning not to speak loudly during a movie. At the same time, children are respectful to their parents and do the things their parents required from them.

An Ordinary American Family

I started my discussion with my American friends about their families with a question what they would prefer mostly, a wealth, a successful career or a happy family. My friends were sure in their answers and the answers were the same "a happy family". For them, having a family with warm and close relationships is an essential part of their "American Dream". From our discussion I have learned that Americans have similar beliefs and opinions about a family and roles of its members in it. Most of my friends have a nuclear family of usually 4 members. But as they also mentioned, today there are many single parent families in the United States. For example, one of my friends lives with his mom for a week and then he goes to his dad's house to spend a week with him and it has been repeating through his life since their parents got a divorce. According to my American friends' speech, today the numbers of single parent families are increasing annually because of the frequent divorces. But in spite of that there are still also many happy families in the US. I think my roommate's family can be a good example of an ordinary American family. He lives with his parents and younger brother. He told me that every family member of his family is independent from each other and is responsible for his or her own actions, which is different from our culture. He thinks that his obligation as a son is a taking care of their parents when they won't be able to do that by themselves. Also all of my American friends told me that when they face serious problems such as choosing their future career they usually discuss it with their fathers, but when there are some problems including health and private problems they ask advice from their moms. That made me think that father’s role in a family is still dominant, even though mothers also play significant roles. The most interesting thing that I have learned during our discussion was that members of American extended families don’t live close to each other, in other words not concentrated in a one place. For example, my roommate’s relatives including his grandparents live all over the United States. So because of a long distance between him and his relatives he does not visit them often. In comparison with our culture, because of unavailability to visit each other regularly American families have usually once in a two years so called a family reunion in which all members of a family gather together and have a big family dinner.